Fears of a Friend

I thought it interesting that as I went through the fear of a panic attack this week, my friend struggled with a huge fear. The neighbor just behind her had a break-in and it creeped her out, especially since she had experienced this years ago. It all came back to haunt her.

She wrote for support because it kept looming and did not feel at all like an illusion. I share my answer here, because usually, I need my own advice within a short period of time! And because I had just gone through my own fear and did exactly what I shared with her, so it is authentic!

Remember that you designed this to scare the dickens out of you, and in order to do that, it has to pass your reality tests. Calling it an illusion isn't about helping the fear to go away. It's simply about remembering....that you planned this little script in your movie to scare the eeby jeebies out of you so you could feel small, alone, powerless. You accomplished it! And because you have an experience of it happening before, it is now bigger.

When I began to get help for panic attacks years ago, one guy said, "The key to getting over panic is to not be afraid of the next one, because there WILL be a next one." I wanted him to say that if I followed his method, that there would be NO MORE attacks. But then I realized the truth of it. The key to getting through panic is WHILE you are in panic and to come to a place of peace. We don't accomplish anything by taking a pill for panic or pain - we get through it by FEELING it.

Allow this extremely uncomfortable feeling of fear to be there. It belongs. Fear does not mean anything bad will happen. Fear is just a feeling. You can imagine the worst and nothing will happen and you can be minding your own business and something can happen - but it can only happen if YOU pre designed a pattern for it. Of course you won't remember if you planned that or not. The only way you know is if it shows up.

It's shown up. So it belongs. Invite the fearful feelings closer. They are yours and they belong. Let them take you to a place that will burst you out into more freedom. How do we experience courage and freedom? By going through fear. It's the only way.

It's a gift, no matter how much it doesn't feel like it.
Reclaim latent (dormant, hidden, buried, concealed, suppressed) power that's been hiding since that last break in or before.

Power up girl and appreciate your script.

You are SAFE.
Love Marilyn