Mom's Birthday

My Mom turned 80 years young today and I had the pure joy of being part of her having the best birthday EVER!

In my past script, planning what to get, having the money to buy it, then sending in the mail, and sending it soon enough to arrive ontime, were all such stressful details for me - for any celebration.

I realized today how much power I've pulled back from the illusions of lack and limitation because first of all, I knew what I was going to get her and had fun planning and sending the gift. It arrived BEFORE her birthday. Then the second part of her present was giving her hair a special treat - a cut by one of the best hairstylists in Nanaimo, and my sister paying for highlights. We arranged the tip as well, so she wouldn't know what we paid and so she didn't have to pay for anything. Then email money transfers to a friend on the Island who went in and paid for it. She not only did that, she took a beautiful vase with flowers to the salon that I had wanted my Mom to have.

My Mom phoned to say how wonderful it all was and how perfect her hair turned out and how gorgeous the vase was. Hearing her joy made me feel so much joy and I basked in the delight of how easy and fun it all was.

And another thing has changed in my hologram as well. I've never known my parents not to have drama and stress in their relationship. I've been the Negotiator for many years of my life between my parents, including helping them plan the end of their marriage as peacefully as possible. Then my Mom's health changed for the positive, then my Dad's changed for the negative. Then my Dad's attitude about my Mom changed for the positive (he said that he expected her to change, but realized that the change needed to start with him) and then my Mom's response to this change was that she changed for the positive. (of course, all of us women know how that works). Today she said that the card he gave her was wonderful and it was a Keeper. Next, I'm going to hear that HE is a Keeper.

How did this all happen so fast? (Though they may argue that it's been 66 years!) I've been doing the process on relationships. They are all aspects of myself and I'm pulling back power from making them all so real. This past year, I spent no energy trying to negotiate for my parents. I just simply validated each of their concerns and knew whatever they chose would be perfect and was already perfect. In the meantime, I was going through the most drama and stress with my partner that I'd ever known in any relationship. How weird was that? Their drama reminded me that it wasn't real, and I also knew that I didn't have to stay and repeat it for another month, never mind 60 more years!

And the gift I helped negotiate for my Mom (peace in her relationship) was not in the pre-script for me, however, the joy I feel in not feeling bad about that is amazing. Peace or war - all are illusions. And in this hologram, there is a time for everything...a time for peace and a time for war. How to know what time it is? Wait for inspiration.

So July 17th marks a new script in my Mom's life. She can be spoiled. (She never felt special) She can love her hair. (She has always had anxiety with her hair). She can get presents she loves. (I can fill a book with the presents she has hated). And she can be HAPPY! She gigles and laughs now. I don't know when my Mom was ever truly happy (except the day I picked her as my Mom and was birthed into the hologram of course)!

A new chapter begins. In her life and in mine. What a great present to give myself.